Recovery Stories

I don’t think there’s s great need to discuss or describe the negative side of substance abuse. Social media and our own personal stories more than fill our minds with the horror and sadness resulting from active addiction. When we first become a part of the disease it is difficult to see much hope that the outcome will be good. Initially, we are lost on cause or solutions. We stumble around looking for answers and hoping that this whole thing is a nightmare and that we will wake up and no longer be there. Before we give up all hope, we might try and see that in fact, not is all lost.
There are so many stories of recovery where the one addicted as well as those connected in some way go on to have wonderful useful lives. Many go on to become educated useful men and women. The problem is that these successful stories are hidden beneath the daily headline’s resultant from the opioid epidemic and the lives lost. It appears the battle goes on and the outcome for your active addict is grim.
How can one find these successful achievements and the paths taken to move to the recovery world? As parents of addict children, we seek answers and understanding thru any means possible. It may be thru meetings, news articles, books, blogs, podcasts, etc. This is necessary to try and put some focus in our lives and help and help make rational decisions for the benefit of our addict and ourselves.
What I’ve found is that as we seek answers, we start to find stories of successful recovery. From my own standpoint in the beginning the successful stories were small in number. I still was exposed more to failure and relapse than recovery. After years of traveling the journey to recovery with my son and some of his close companions also active in addiction, I started to look at those grim stories from a different perspective. My thoughts no longer saw hopelessness but rather the collection of successful stories I had come across as I continued to try and understand substance abuse. As I would go to new avenues for learning, I found that searching topics on successful recovery rather that of the lost souls and failures, helped minimize despair. I also believe that as we got better, our son got better. There is a continuing search for answers to helping us to recovery in any way possible. We have found from our initial search for answers that one of the first steps mentioned may in fact be the most helpful. As you get better, the addict will follow. The anger and hurt right from the beginning take away from the goal to save our addict.  We need to understand we both have steps to follow for success. There are general beliefs on what one needs to do but unless we can focus on each of us getting better the journey will be difficult. Constant conflict adds nothing to solving the problem. Understanding and belief in recovery can only help those suffering.

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