The subject of addiction brings on a whole host of issues requiring choice on the part of the addict and those caring. Some choices need to made in rapid fashion while others require planning and careful thought of the pros and cons of the choices made. Whether an immediate or future decision, the choice can help or hinder recovery.
From the initial start of the path to recovery, each of us must understand that we know little to absolutely nothing regarding the journey in front of us. The person addicted no doubt is not in any position to think clearly or may not even care. On the other hand, those of us caring may be much the same. Unless we have been confronted with this disease beforehand, we may clueless as to where to begin. Someone like myself, having lost a son to drugs and alcohol, had preconceived notions that were totally useless in helping and may have caused more damage than good. With the second son’s addiction his mom and I decided to reach out and find help. At this point we attended our first NAR-ANON meeting and started searching possible answers.
First and above all NAR-ANON stressed to us the three “C” s. I believe these must be driven into you mind from the begging: you did not cause it, you cannot control it and lastly, you cannot cure it. If you attempt to use these points as base, it may help you with your own well-being and the addict as well. The journey to active recovery will be a lifelong challenge but there are many success stories out there to help and guide your choice.
if your addict truly wants to regain sobriety and willing to be put to this difficult task, there is a host of options awaiting their choices. I think both parties must be prepared for relapse. This journey will deal with the physical, mental, spiritual and emotional strains on the body as never before. if you can come into the battle, understanding the foe, there is always hope. One thing added to the base for myself was to remember love and support. Love is the strongest of the virtues and the hardest to deal with.
Addiction is a poor example place to seek out love, therefore those who care have an additional decision to make. Once again one of the hardest ever met. Keeping love on top of the requirements can help you over the rough spots or bumps in the road. The addict may be blinded by the disease but every clear moment he or she feels sorrow for the damage done to those loved. I’ve heard and seen the addicts in recovery cry and shame themselves over and over again. The pain is as deep or deeper than we realize as they may no longer be directly involved with our lives. Understanding their suffering will enforce your feeling of love and support.
I’m not talking about financial support but love and encouragement. If you end every conversation with I love you, you may just be giving them that piece of hope that they still have not been abandoned by those they loved so much before falling prey to something that only has one goal and that’s to control your mind and spirit. The disease has no concern for the consequences of the addict’s choice to use and most certainly has no concern for those suffering along with those addicted.
This topic is only to point out the importance of our choice towards recovery on both sides of addiction. There is a magnitude of information on social media that may help. Participating in meetings with real life stories, joining support groups, books, podcast and other sources can guide you to your best hope.